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Saturday, November 12, 2005

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Newsweek on Metzitza B'peh(almost)




By "Rabbi"Marc Gellman
Newsweek
Updated: 1:54 p.m. ET Nov. 9, 2005
Nov. 9, 2005 -
Last Sunday afternoon I had a nice chat with sixth-grade children and their parents about oral sex. Let me assure you that when I studied to be a rabbi, oral sex was not an elective in my seminary’s curriculum, but now it seems to me of much greater importance than teaching these kids how to bless a challah bread.
... it is just unbelievably embarrassing to talk about this stuff. I am a fearless public speaker but my palms were sweating all through the lecture last Sunday. In the follow-up to the lecture, the main question the kids had was, “Do you really have sex?”
...The avalanche’s roar carries a single message: love and sex do not have to be connected in any way at all. Sex can be just hooking up, this message says, and to avoid pregnancy (obviously true) and to avoid AIDS and STDS (utterly false) oral sex is seen by our kids as nothing more than an after-school snack. Many kids now consider it as nothing more than a social convention, a mark of popularity, a sign of sexual liberation and a pleasant way to pass the time in the back of the bus on the way to school.
...I asked the girls I teach and love last Sunday, “When you offer oral sex to a boy who does not love you and may not even like you and who will most probably destroy your reputation by telling his friends what you will do, are you proud of yourself? Do you think you are making your parents proud of you? Do you think this is what God wants you to do with your body? You are better than that. You are much better than that.”
I asked the boys I teach and love last Sunday, “When you ask or beg or plead or coerce or manipulate a young girl who likes you and just wants to be popular to go down on you, are you proud of doing that to her? Do you think you are making your parents proud of you? Do you think this is what God wants you to do with your body? You are better than that. You are much better than that.”
Then I surrendered to my need to explain that this was not just me talking, but our faith talking and so I quoted the Talmud to them: “Be very careful if you make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman came out of a man’s rib: Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved.”
And then I took a deep breath and wiped the sweat off my palms and watched their faces as they thought about something deeply important and difficult. Maybe I changed nothing. I think I started some important conversations at home, and all this happened in my synagogue. Last Sunday I know I did my job, and I did it without teaching anybody how to bless a challah.
© 2005 Newsweek, Inc.

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7 Comments:

  • At 11/13/2005 7:32 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Maybe if these people would consider not mingling boys & girls and giving them the opportunities to indulge the Rabbi could instruct them to the high road. Instead of trying to close the barn door after the cows gone.

     
  • At 11/14/2005 6:53 AM, Blogger Still Wonderin' said…

    Anonymous: "Maybe if these people would consider not mingling boys & girls and giving them the opportunities to indulge the Rabbi could instruct them to the high road. Instead of trying to close the barn door after the cows gone."

    (three years later, Anonymous pulls his head out of the ground and realizes that his patronizing, narrow world view solves nothing)

     
  • At 11/14/2005 7:12 AM, Blogger Q said…

    "a pleasant way to pass the time in the back of the bus on the way to school"

    Marc Gellman is a nerd who didn't get any on the back of the bus and in jelouse.

     
  • At 11/14/2005 8:08 AM, Blogger Still Wonderin' said…

    Actually, it sounds more like Anonymous who's bitter about not getting any.

     
  • At 11/14/2005 8:20 AM, Blogger Q said…

    I agree that boys and girls should be together and learn about life correctly.

    shocking but true: there are bunches of homosexual men in all boy yeshivas.

    Perhaps if they knew girls, learned about life, were socialy normal, etc. they wouldnt be sexually stiffened and turn to men to release their feelings.

    Boys and girls should be together, yet taught correctly, by their parents and teachers about what proper conduct is, what sex is, what respect for other people is, etc.etc.

    etc.

     
  • At 11/14/2005 8:31 AM, Anonymous groovy said…

    yeah!
    look how good it's worked till now!!

    it wasnt long ago that boys and girls were kept seperate and what was the bj on "back of the bus" rate then??

     
  • At 11/14/2005 10:51 AM, Blogger Q said…

    groovy, no bj's on the bus. just gay buttsex in the yeshiva.

     

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